So the Church is changing some of the participant responses at mass. These changes take place in November, first Sunday of Advent. It got me thinking about my Mom and the changes she saw in the Church. If I'm not mistaken she would of remembered Vatican II. Now obviously the changes I've seen so far are nothing like Vatican II. These are just minor changes to responses and words in prayers we recite at Mass, well so far as I know. It just got me thinking, my little girl will not know the responses I've always known and will be hard to break the automatic response; just like I've always known the mass as the Vatican II version. For my Mom Vatican II happened during her high school years, and for me these changes are happening much later in my life. I'm thinking about my little girl where my Mom had quite a different list of priorities at that stage in her life.
I suppose I've had some struggles of late, when it comes to faith any way. At one time I was so devout and strong in my faith. Now things are so different. I hear questions and answers and reasons. There are jokes and discussions and politics and media and of course there is always money. Of all things an episode of Little House on the Prairie got me thinking. Why do people do bad things? God gives free will and for people to choose good or evil & all degrees there of. If people choose evil that is not God's fault. Thank you Little House. If an accident occurs and one survives and one dies, the survivor might say thank God for saving me, and this statement makes one ponder why did the other person die. I don't know, things happen and we do not always have answers, at least answers are not always available to us when we first ponder the question. I don't think God creates car accidents I think those things just happen. I wonder with the media and politics and jokes and discussions if religion has become the focus and not God. People can be what ever religion that want to proclaim, but when it comes right down to it, religion is just a label. It's all about how we treat each other on this planet. Not what label we wear. I use the term God, other people use different names and some don't use any name at all. It's not about what term we use or what term we don't use, what we believe or don't believe, or if you think there is no such thing as God, again it's respect for life and for human beings. Please don't hide behind a label and say and do horrid things, for politics, for power, for money. Please just be kind to one another. And for those who do not have any label at all, don't equate religion with individuals. Please don't stereotype. Kindness, compassion, care and respect; these are qualities to build from, qualities to teach our children & qualities adults should continue to cultivate.
take care
Sunday, September 25, 2011
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
One of the guys.
Okay, I've been working what I like to call a "regular person's" schedule for about seven months. This allows me to have two out of every three weekends off. I'm really enjoying my time with my family and all of the activities that are available on the weekends. We've visited Como Town and a few Farmer's Markets.
This past weekend we attended an afternoon get together with some friends. We knew the host couple and there were two other couples and several children. It was a great time. I found it a bit strange that the party was separated by men and women. It was not a requirement, as a matter of fact a comment was made about the outside area was not a "boys club" yet the women were pretty much mingling together inside & the men were pretty much outside. I have to admit I felt a little more comfortable outside talking about current events & politics out with the guys. Not to mention I enjoy socializing with my husband. It was just odd, please understand I was not offended, and I had a great time with everyone there. It's just an observation.
Now on the topic of friendship building, it's been tough in this fine city. We've lived here for nearly four years. Things are looking so much better of late. I'm wondering if my previous work schedule made the building process even tougher. It's hard to be social when your time off is when every one else is working. Like I said, things are looking up.
I will close for now, though I'm hoping to possibly encourage a member of my family to move a little closer to his "short pants"
take care.
This past weekend we attended an afternoon get together with some friends. We knew the host couple and there were two other couples and several children. It was a great time. I found it a bit strange that the party was separated by men and women. It was not a requirement, as a matter of fact a comment was made about the outside area was not a "boys club" yet the women were pretty much mingling together inside & the men were pretty much outside. I have to admit I felt a little more comfortable outside talking about current events & politics out with the guys. Not to mention I enjoy socializing with my husband. It was just odd, please understand I was not offended, and I had a great time with everyone there. It's just an observation.
Now on the topic of friendship building, it's been tough in this fine city. We've lived here for nearly four years. Things are looking so much better of late. I'm wondering if my previous work schedule made the building process even tougher. It's hard to be social when your time off is when every one else is working. Like I said, things are looking up.
I will close for now, though I'm hoping to possibly encourage a member of my family to move a little closer to his "short pants"
take care.
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
CyberFreud
Okay, so I'm reading Charlotte's Web to my daughter. We read about a chapter a night. She seems to like it a great deal, we talk about the story and she asks questions, constantly, so much so half the time the answers are "let's keep reading and find out." It is a very special time for us. I'm really enjoying how her mind works. She listens to the words, the questions she asks, it's fun to see the connections.
My husband and I have also decided to home school our daughter. Not for any religious reasons, that's a whole other topic I'm sure I'll write volumes on later. We've talked about homeschooling for a while and decided to give it a go for lots of reasons. I think the big one for me is that it would be most beneficial for her education. It's one-on-one learning, you can't get better than that. The few people we've told always have the same concern, the socialization. We've enrolled her in gymnastic classes, she also attends a Sunday school program at my church. She interacts with children her own age at these places on a weekly basis. She also goes to play at our gym where she plays with children of all ages. We've already started with some preschool learning and it seems to be going very well. Goodness I don't even remember when we started, we transformed the basement play area into a one room school house, as one of our friends put it. We did take a bit of a break from lessons, with my Mom passing away it was hard when we came home to get back into the home school routine. Now with my change in work hours and increased responsibility at first it seemed impossible, but after sitting down with my husband it actually seems much more practical now. He will be part of the planning process and the teaching process as well. He's always been very involved with her education, it was just the hands on factor. He's done tons of research, written out curriculum working backwards from high school info to middle school. He's wonderful, I also said I would take on her curriculum now, but I have to admit it's been so much better with him sitting at the table with me writing her preschool lesson plans.
Things are always better when my husband is sitting right next to me. As a matter of fact I know he's always on my side. I'm starting to feel like I did before we got married and just after. Don't get me wrong our relationship as always been terrific since day one. It was at those early times that I was a little more carefree with him. I didn't worry about things as much. I've always been a worrier, but when I first met him in that wonderful little coffee shop on University some of that worry melted away. As we became closer more and more of that worry went away, and when we got married it was just about all gone. As I think back on those days now, it seems like it was only when we moved back to my home town that worry and constant concern of things I can't control came back. I don't know if that's just what I grew up with & I had returned to it or if it was something else. There was a lot of negativity in my house as I grew up. Which I don't think anybody would guess based on my attitude on life as an adult. I consider myself to be a very positive person and always trying to put myself in the other person's "shoes" something I learned from Kairos back in 1991 on my senior year retreat (thanks Becky Parker).
This sounds absolutely terrible, but maybe with my Mom's death that part of my life died too, the constant negativity went away. Now with that said, please understand that my Mom was not a complete negative person. She was kind, funny, caring, generous, and a really good person. I love my Mom very much. She was a great deal of fun, we would drive an hour and a half north just to go to lunch or go to a Starbucks that was 60 miles away, just because we'd never been there before. We would make each other laugh, and I mean egg laying cackling. She really was a wonderful woman and the fact that my little girl will not know her really breaks my heart into thousands of pieces. Okay, no tear fest. Just know that my life is wonderful and I feel very blessed (yes I do believe in that sort of thing, well I'm coming back to it) I have a wonderful husband and terrific little girl and I truly appreciate what my life is right now.
Thanks to the great cyberspace as my psychologist I will sign off for now.
take care.
My husband and I have also decided to home school our daughter. Not for any religious reasons, that's a whole other topic I'm sure I'll write volumes on later. We've talked about homeschooling for a while and decided to give it a go for lots of reasons. I think the big one for me is that it would be most beneficial for her education. It's one-on-one learning, you can't get better than that. The few people we've told always have the same concern, the socialization. We've enrolled her in gymnastic classes, she also attends a Sunday school program at my church. She interacts with children her own age at these places on a weekly basis. She also goes to play at our gym where she plays with children of all ages. We've already started with some preschool learning and it seems to be going very well. Goodness I don't even remember when we started, we transformed the basement play area into a one room school house, as one of our friends put it. We did take a bit of a break from lessons, with my Mom passing away it was hard when we came home to get back into the home school routine. Now with my change in work hours and increased responsibility at first it seemed impossible, but after sitting down with my husband it actually seems much more practical now. He will be part of the planning process and the teaching process as well. He's always been very involved with her education, it was just the hands on factor. He's done tons of research, written out curriculum working backwards from high school info to middle school. He's wonderful, I also said I would take on her curriculum now, but I have to admit it's been so much better with him sitting at the table with me writing her preschool lesson plans.
Things are always better when my husband is sitting right next to me. As a matter of fact I know he's always on my side. I'm starting to feel like I did before we got married and just after. Don't get me wrong our relationship as always been terrific since day one. It was at those early times that I was a little more carefree with him. I didn't worry about things as much. I've always been a worrier, but when I first met him in that wonderful little coffee shop on University some of that worry melted away. As we became closer more and more of that worry went away, and when we got married it was just about all gone. As I think back on those days now, it seems like it was only when we moved back to my home town that worry and constant concern of things I can't control came back. I don't know if that's just what I grew up with & I had returned to it or if it was something else. There was a lot of negativity in my house as I grew up. Which I don't think anybody would guess based on my attitude on life as an adult. I consider myself to be a very positive person and always trying to put myself in the other person's "shoes" something I learned from Kairos back in 1991 on my senior year retreat (thanks Becky Parker).
This sounds absolutely terrible, but maybe with my Mom's death that part of my life died too, the constant negativity went away. Now with that said, please understand that my Mom was not a complete negative person. She was kind, funny, caring, generous, and a really good person. I love my Mom very much. She was a great deal of fun, we would drive an hour and a half north just to go to lunch or go to a Starbucks that was 60 miles away, just because we'd never been there before. We would make each other laugh, and I mean egg laying cackling. She really was a wonderful woman and the fact that my little girl will not know her really breaks my heart into thousands of pieces. Okay, no tear fest. Just know that my life is wonderful and I feel very blessed (yes I do believe in that sort of thing, well I'm coming back to it) I have a wonderful husband and terrific little girl and I truly appreciate what my life is right now.
Thanks to the great cyberspace as my psychologist I will sign off for now.
take care.
Saturday, December 25, 2010
Christmas Spirit
So here goes. It's Christmas time, well MERRY CHRISTMAS. Christmas 2002 was a bit difficult, but I was the one cheering up my Mom and so I kept the "Christmas Spirit" that year especially. My Gram had passed away in October of that year and I was trying to take care of my Mom. I was there, living in the same city. This year is a bit tough. My Mom passed away in April. I'm trying not to think of things, I've been doing really well up until Christmas Eve. I've been trying to keep thoughts out of my mind and just focus on the "Christmas Spirit" for my little 3-year-old girl. It's really hard b/c I keep thinking of all the Christmases she will have and not a one will she share with Nona. My Mom will never have Christmas at my house, play the piano w/CC, or sit at the kitchen table and make pitzelles letting CC lick the batter off the spoon.
I think it's more difficult this year than 2002 b/c I have no one to take care of, someone to help who's going through the same thing I am. Don't get me wrong I am so excited about my little girl's Christmas, I just wish I can do magic and bring my Dad here. I feel so bad b/c he's by himself, alone. The door was open, but he chose not to come b/c of the extreme cold weather of where I live. We'll do the best we can w/modern technology the communication of the internet, but it's not the same has getting a great big hug from your granddaughter, "short pants."
That's my blurb for now.
take care,
I think it's more difficult this year than 2002 b/c I have no one to take care of, someone to help who's going through the same thing I am. Don't get me wrong I am so excited about my little girl's Christmas, I just wish I can do magic and bring my Dad here. I feel so bad b/c he's by himself, alone. The door was open, but he chose not to come b/c of the extreme cold weather of where I live. We'll do the best we can w/modern technology the communication of the internet, but it's not the same has getting a great big hug from your granddaughter, "short pants."
That's my blurb for now.
take care,
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